In continuation of our series about Ro’s wife school I have decided to post another interview. This interview is from a woman who chose to remain anonymous.

 

How did you find out about Ro’s Wife School?  

 

I had followed Ro Cutno on Facebook for over a year before I decided to invest in Wife School.

 

What prompted you to join?

 

When I announced my marriage, which was [in 2016].. Ro Cutno commented on my post congratulating us and also advertised her “wife school” classes. I thought it was perfect timing to go ahead and take her courses as a newlywed to be the best wife possible. I had also been following her Facebook page for a while.

 

How much money did you spend to join Ro’s Wife School?

 

“Wife School” is only a part of Roots of Royals. At the time I took Wife School, it was $300 dollars . But for Roots of Royals, I have spent over $2k.

 

How long were you enrolled in Ro’s Wife School?

 

The Wife School course was only about 7-8 hours at the time.

 

How much money have you spent in total?

 

A little over $2k total.

 

Were you asked to sign a Non-Disclosure Agreement?

 

For the Wife School video course, yes.

 

Did you gain anything from the experience?

 

Yes. I gained some light and knowledge in her ideas of “class,” objective views on how “American Black women are seen” overall…social views of marriage, purposes of marriage, (generational success and personal growth), some things she used to talk about such as Black wealth, racism. Etc.

 

While enrolled were you allowed to ask questions about Ro’s Wife School?

 

Yes. However, anyone with challenging questions or possible implications of rhetorical disagreeing questions were unacceptable. And this was mostly subjective with Ro Cutno as the judge.

 

Were you enrolled in classes in person or online?

 

Both.

 

Is Ro the only teacher at her Wife School?

 

Yes, however she has a few mentors that regurgitate her teachings. Not their own ideas or opinions. So in essence, and like she used to say in her private group, her mentors “are extensions” of her.

 

If you are no longer enrolled, why did you leave?

 

I am no longer affiliated with Roots of Royals because Ro Cutno directly and deliberately disrespected my husband’s leadership, which goes against everything she teaches.

I reached out to her and kindly asked her to not publicly tag my name on her posts, and regarding this particular post, made it clear that I am still willing to support those affected as much as I can. Instead of her respecting our request, she verbally attacked me by stating I was “selfish,” “scare too easily” and that I “disgusted” her. I think this was my breaking point. I had tolerated her odd behavior and controlling personality over the years because of what she taught and appeared to stand for. By odd and controlling I mean things like:

-Telling other adults that they couldn’t be friends with certain individuals that she considered her enemy or people that she had a personal beef with and threatened to blacklist them if they did not comply, (like a 12 year old).

– Telling women (single and married) that she was our “practice husband” and that we needed to follow all of HER instructions in order to be successful in marriage, but not adoring us as her practice wives. It was one- sided.

-Publicly humiliating individuals on Facebook and calling it “correction” (instead of correcting privately), then tagging other people whom she knows will agree with her for more humiliation and passive aggressiveness…in the name of “tough love” or “correction.”

– Starting whole posts simply to publicly bully vegans/vegetarians, calling them “religious,” implying men who don’t eat meat as not “masculine” and that it was “new age hotepism.” One instance: I observed her bully a woman publicly for being a vegan; she retrieved a “friend’s only” picture of the woman’s child dressed in a cupcake costume and posted it demanding the woman explain why her daughter was dressed as a cupcake if they were vegan. The woman asked her to please remove her child’s picture and she left it up. (This conversation/thread has since been deleted, like many others).

Overall, I have come to the realization that “Man Leads,” Black empowerment, or a Black “movement” has been exploited. There’s not one definition of a movement but I don’t believe you should claim an organization as a “movement” when there’s not even emergency funds for loyal members, fundraisers or “donations” started under the movement when a member needs very serious help. I also strongly believe that an authentic Black empowerment movement would not compete with other Black businesses and attempt to monopolize topics by being a one stop “expert” shop in: health and diet, parenting, marriage, beauty and dress apparel, hair, finance, travel, language, and now sex.

I have witnessed her make a subtle threat to a follower who had their own business opportunities in teaching parenting and Ro Cutno publicly stated to the woman “We have Royal parenting, be careful.” She publicly threatened another Black woman’s passive income idea who also had goals of staying home and nurturing her own family.

Overall, I believe that the founder of Roots of Royals is not authentic, does not practice what she preaches, lies often, attempts to make philosophical excuses for her habitual lying, and has even stated honesty is “overrated” publicly before.

 

Why do you want to speak about Ro’s school now?

 

This review is being completed mainly for the women that are still currently involved now or newcomers that are interested:

You may want to remain because like me, you want to be a part of a “Black Empowerment” group, a group of “feminine” women, or at least women {that look like us} teaching femininity, because you believe in marriage as the foundation to generational success (which I still believe), or because you can just filter (chew the meat, spit out the bones). I STILL desire all of the above.

From my personal experience, you can only surface follow someone for so long whom you discover isn’t authentic in being what’s taught or raises flags of exploiting the things above for their own personal (their own family’s) monetary gain.

TRUST YOUR INTUITION. That gut feeling is the truth. No matter what is stated verbally with words, language, our physical bodies, we are spiritual beings and our spirits don’t lie, nor can it be hidden much.

I actually agree with MOST of her ideologies and it is refreshing to see another Black woman speak on traditional ideas. I originally discovered most of her theories over 10 years ago in a book called “Fascinating Womanhood” which was written in 1963. Her material is NOT what I have a problem with. It has been her character: Femininity is flowy, (its not just about man charming by the way), not controlling. And the overall passive aggressive mood of the organization. Which makes it seem very similar to tainted or poisoned breast milk. Because although “passive aggressive” is subjective, it cannot be in alignment with nurturing, compassion, femininity.

I believe her “movement” is too controlling and takes away individuality. You can still be feminine and unique. Believe in yourself, love yourself. Enjoy the chapter that you are in right now. You are still beautiful and worthy as a single woman too!

 

Do you believe Ro’s Wife School is a cult?

 

“The word “cult” in itself has been controversial lately. Ro Cutno has rebutted people by saying “cult” is short for “culture” as a rationalization for this “movement.” But I urge everyone to simply research the etymology of the root word “cult” which is also short for many other things: culture, cultus, cultivar, cultivated, mono-culture and agri-culture all come from the same Latin root, which originally had to do with agricultural planting.

In the Roman mind, planting seeds in a field with the purpose of later deriving a benefit from the harvest was not just an economical activity, it had a religious aspect as well. So “cultus” doesn’t just mean “(something) has been cultivated” but also “the appropriate religious rites have been/were performed” and from there it also got the meaning “appropriate rites to be performed before doing something.” Slowly, it was also applied to individuals who were highly knowledgeable about the prescribed rites for each time of the year, under which situation, and for planting what seeds. And thence it drifted to simply meaning “knowledgeable person” i.e. “cultivated.” In English the relationship isn’t so clear but e.g. in Spanish “culto” still means both “cult” and “cultivated person.”

Please visit: https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/cultus#Latin and from there do further research until you understand for yourself.

MY OPINION: Ro’s “Roots of Royals” is more of a religious sect of a small group of loyal followers who will believe and follow all that is stated and instructed for them to do.

 

Have you reported Ro’s Wife School to any government agency? If so, which one(s) and why?

 

No.

 

Is there anything else you would like us to know about Ro’s Wife School?

 

Ro Cutno may appear as if she cares for you or your wellbeing but she does not. She can easily detach from ANYONE who has allowed her to have so much control over their own life. I’ve witnessed with my own eyes posts that she has written in Facebook groups speaking negatively about her own family members, sisters- stating they were jealous of her multiple times, using them as examples of attracting a healthy caliber of men based on their body size – that her bigger sisters often attracted users and abusers compared to her smaller sisters.

Do not expect a genuine coaching or mentor type of relationship. She will tell you upfront that she is not “professional” (although she has stated before that she was a “professional expert”) and that you are not a customer (but will ask for a “donation” of your hard earned money to add towards her “26 streams of income”).

Your beliefs, thoughts, or opinions do not matter and she is always right. She will NEVER apologize because she is never wrong. Being in full femininity IS having emotional vulnerability too. You can not. You must logically learn from her in masculine energy (left brain), then filter and recreate for your personal life. Keep your door open and learn from multiple sources. No one is a true and thorough expert in a multiple wide range of various topics.

I have taken my time to warn you all, because I do have compassion, to give my honest review. If you choose to continue following her “movement” for possible enlightenment, do it from a distance. You can not practice full femininity with this “movement” because you will eventually be hurt, especially if you have no one to personally protect you.”

If you have also been a victim of Ro’s wife school please share your story. 

~Kai

A Look Inside of #RoEloriCutno’s #WifeSchool Cult – Part I
A Look Inside of #RoEloriCutno’s #WifeSchool Cult – Part II “The 5 W’s” and “How”
A Look Inside of #RoEloriCutno’s #WifeSchool Cult – Part III Interview: “Young” Wife School Victim
A Look Inside of #RoEloriCutno’s #WifeSchool Cult – Part IV Interview: “I am almost too old to get married to a healthy man.”
A Look Inside of #RoEloriCutno’s #WifeSchool Cult – Part V Interview: “The tea was bootleg.”
A Look Inside of #RoEloriCutno’s #WifeSchool Cult – Part VI Video Interview with Candice Adewole
A Look Inside of #RoEloriCutno’s #WifeSchool Cult – Part VII Interview: “Things just don’t feel right”
A Look Inside of #RoEloriCutno’s #WifeSchool Cult – Part VIII Interview: “Ro always wanted to marry me off
A Look Inside of #RoEloriCutno’s #WifeSchool Cult – Part IX Interview:”I’m a guy, who wanted to give a male perspective”
A Look Inside of #RoEloriCutno’s #WifeSchool Cult – Part X Video Interview with Ameenah Muhammad

 

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