Hey Kai,
This past weekend, I was with 5 women who wanted to know where my erogenous zones were. Before I could answer, they all agreed it was the tip and underneath the shaft. When I told them it was my nipples, they were floored. They didn’t have a clue we, men, could have such. Is it uncommon or do some women not know a lot about men’s bodies?
Randy
Hi Randy,
I really had to think about your question “…do some women not know a lot about men’s bodies?” I have to admit that there’s a good chance that many women do not know much about men’s bodies. While female nudity in our society is very well accepted male nudity is still considered mostly taboo. This is why you will see women fully nude in movies but rarely see fully nude men. Women probably know less about men’s bodies than men know about women’s because women are less exposed to men’s bodies in general.
Sadly also in our society men are often painted as one dimensional. We rarely see men as more than just the stereotype of “masculine” which often teeters on toxic. We view male sexuality as pretty basic, almost like a caveman. Our society doesn’t really give men the opportunity to be anything beyond sex crazed fiends. Rarely do we see images of men being “sensual” despite the fact that men are in reality very sensual.
All we learn about men is that “all they want is sex,” or “men’s hearts are connected to their penises.” Women, too, are sexually objectified in our society. However, even in that sexual objectification women are not viewed as one dimensional. They are also viewed as sensual and able to receive sexual pleasure through a multitude of places on their bodies.
I am just going to have to admit that this is one of those things that proves that sexism and patriarchy hurts men too. We don’t ever see images and information about men’s erogenous zones beyond the male genitalia when in reality men do have multiple erogenous zones, just like women. As you have pointed out, many men get sexual pleasure from nipple stimulation. In fact, the mouth, neck, ears, chest, and navel, are also places men find pleasurable.
It is important to note that erogenous zones are unique to each individual. That is why every person should take time to get to know what gives their partner pleasure. And, Randy, you are absolutely correct. Men’s bodies have multiple erogenous zones and women should definitely know about them!
~Kai
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