Hey Kai!

I’m reading your book now!

I enjoy dating and meeting new men! At the same time, it’s feeling like work! For example, I’ll have a great 1st coffee, dinner, or activity meet-up. Then, when it’s time to execute the date, the plan seems to fall on me. For example, he asks me when I’m free and I give him time options. He asks me what I want to do and then has no plan of what we will do for a date. How do I address that?

Jenn

Hi Jenn,

You make other plans. Seriously.

Men who always ask if you are free but never make plans to see you are treating you as an option. That’s something men do when they are not genuinely interested. I am not saying that a man who does this is not interested in you. It just means you are not his priority interest. That’s when you should have options, too.

There truly is no need to wait around for a man to pay attention to you. As I say in my book, “Pay attention to the men who pay attention to you,” – Date Like A Woman, if a man fails to make plans with you, you should plan to do something else…date or otherwise…and when he texts/calls on the day he initially asked about having a date with you, let him know you are busy.

This will have one of two effects. If he really does like you, it will make him step up in prioritizing his time with you and he will make real plans…or…he will leave you alone completely. Either way, you get a clear idea of whether he is genuinely interested or not.

Hope this helps!

~Kai

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