Yes. Men hate the friendzone. It is considered an awful place for men to be. There is, however, another way to look at it. Men simply need to get over it. The friendzone is not a bad place. Let me explain.

You should want friends, even friends of the opposite sex. Yes, that’s right. Men should want women friends. Just like women should want men friends. Friendship is healthy. Something that men are not taught in our society is that it is also good to have emotional support without romantic ties. In fact, women get the majority of their emotional support from their female friendships. Men not so much. Men usually seek emotional support from a romantic partner which can often create an unequal burden on the relationship.

Platonic friendships are healthy. Platonic friends of the opposite sex can also help you navigate life a little bit easier…especially when it comes to dating. Being able to have someone to talk to about life, dating, and relationships with a perspective different from your own is great! Getting the opposite sex’s perspective can often help us understand our own pitfalls, especially when dating. In general, friendship helps us through life; we all need good friends. We should seek out healthy friendships, even as adults.

The way society is set up, we are taught that men and women cannot be just friends. While that is not true, this is where sometimes things get tricky. Many times men become friends with women with the intention of making it more. Men often see the “friendzone” as a platform to something beyond friendship. Not saying friends never become something more; it does happen. However, if you become “friends” with the hidden intention of wanting more, that is not honest. So, please fellas, stop doing that. If you want to date a woman and she just wants to be friends, accept the rejection and move on. Staying friends with a woman that you deeply desire to date, after she has made her intentions clear to only be friends, can put her in an uncomfortable position. It can actually endanger the “friendship.”

Ladies, too. Please do not put a man in the friendzone as a way to soften your rejection if he is interested in dating you and you are not interested in dating him. Friendship should be honest both ways. If you are only asking to be friends so that you do not feel bad about saying you are not interested in something more you are not being honest. Just keep it real. It will save you an uncomfortable situation later.

Honesty is necessary in friendships, and friendships are necessary in life. So, don’t be afraid of the friendzone; just be honest about it.

~Kai

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