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I know the #manosphere tells men that if they want to attract women they just need to make a lot of money, that’s it. Men tell other men that all you need to do to attract women is to get a high-paying job or get an extra job to earn more money and suddenly you will become a “high-value man” and women will just fall at your feet. But to be honest with you a lot of money doesn’t make men attractive to women. While money is nice to have, making money JUST to attract women only makes women want your money, not you. That means you will only attract women who like your money, not you. And despite a lot of men pretending that they don’t want companionship/relationships, men do actually want to make genuine connections with women. And a lot of men really do not know how to attract women.
So how does a man become attractive to women? Well this advice is not guaranteed to attract women to you because the truth that the manosphere won’t tell you is that life is not fair. You may never attract a woman. And that’s just the way it is. Yes, there may be absolutely no hope for you and you have to accept that possibility first. You may be single forever so learning how to be happy alone will benefit you greatly.
However after you accept the possibility of being alone you can then work on increasing your attractiveness with women by doing the following things:
Work on your physical appearance. Don’t let the movies fool you, women like men who are physically attractive. If you are walking around looking terrible then you will not attract any women. I know some things like height can work against you (remember life is not fair) but things like, being in good shape, skin, hair, teeth, and nails are within your control. If you have nice teeth and skin (moisturize!) women notice things like that. Style is important too, you can’t look like a bum or dress like a toddler and expect women to be attracted to you.
Take care of your health. Being sickly is not attractive. Dying young is not attractive. Go to the doctor and take care of yourself. Health is wealth fellas.
Work on your traumas/self esteem. A lot of men need to go to therapy for whatever traumas and self esteem issues they are dealing with. Many men thing women are rehabilitation centers for men but we aren’t. In fact, you shouldn’t even be dating until you get your traumas and self esteem together.
Stop pretending to be a “nice guy”. If you think you’re a “nice guy” I promise you aren’t. And you probably think interactions with women are transactional, and are only being “nice” with the expectation of receiving something in return. Relationships with women are not transactional. So if you are only being “nice” because you want a woman to do something for you, you are disingenuous and most likely a jerk.
Change your attitude towards women. – A lot of men because of sexism think women are less than men. And that belief comes out in how men treat women.If you think women are beneath you or women only exist to be men’s “helpmeets” or that men are born to “lead” women, you aren’t going to attract women to you.If you find yourself talking over women a lot, you probably are sexist and that’s making women not like you. Sexism is not attractive to women. No woman wants a man who thinks he’s “better” that her. You need to work on understanding that women are equal to men in every way. Sexism will take some effort to unlearn and will probably be hard for you but if you get to the point that you understand women are equal to men your attractiveness with women will increase.
~ Kai
