Good Morning World!!
“Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.” – Bell Hooks
There’s a big difference between “being alone” and “being lonely”. Being alone or solitary is not a bad thing; when you are comfortable in your solitude, you love being with yourself. Which means you love yourself as you are and don’t need someone else to validate your existence.
However, being lonely means you are not comfortable in your solitude and are desperately seeking the company of others to soothe your loneliness. People who are desperate for company are often not capable of love. Lonely people can be the most draining people of all because they seek out others to use them and drain them of their positive energy.
It’s important to learn how to love yourself fully so that you don’t become someone so desperate for connection that you are incapable of genuine love and only drain others for their energy. Plus, when you love yourself fully, you attract people to you. People want to be around those who are full of love and positive energy. So people who are comfortable with solitude are never actually alone because others are constantly seeking out their company.
Happy Thursday!
~ Kai
