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I recently received this comment on my YouTube channel, and since it’s been a while since I’ve tackled a dating question, I figured now would be a good time to address it.
Tracy wrote: “What about a guy you encountered more than three times, who keeps forgetting your name but clearly likes you? Should I call him out or continue not minding him??” She went on to say “He just keeps staring at me and greets me with hugs.” And “It also seems like he wants me to initiate a conversation with him every time we meet each other. I don’t like the idea of approaching men who haven’t started talking to me.”
First Tracy, I want to thank you for getting me back to dating content. It’s been a while!
I’m not sure if you’ve read my book Date Like A Woman, but I dedicate an entire chapter to talking about men. First, let’s acknowledge that “men are often insecure when it comes to women.” So, it’s no surprise if a guy keeps staring at you when he sees you. Men often stare but don’t approach because they’re nervous. While his staring is a sign that he’s physically attracted to you, it doesn’t necessarily mean he likes you in a deeper way—but we’ll dive into that later.
In my book, I also discuss the importance of not chasing men. While a lot has changed in the world of dating and relationships, traditional norms still hold strong. Men are often socially conditioned to pursue the women they’re interested in. When women chase men, it can lead to negative or disappointing outcomes. So, it’s a good thing you’re not making the first move.
The real challenge here is figuring out how interested he actually is in you. You need to pay attention to the signals he’s giving. From what you’ve described, he’s definitely showing signs of physical attraction, but since he forgets your name and isn’t taking any further steps, it seems like he’s not genuinely interested in getting to know you on a deeper level right now.
That could change, but my best advice is to let him take the initiative to ask you out or make an effort to get to know you. If he doesn’t, continue to ignore him and move on.
Hope this helps!
~ Kai
