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The first time I heard about the “love languages” theory something about it just didn’t sit right with me. The “theory” seemed very gimmicky to me. Despite the fact that so many people were talking and posting about it and agreeing with it I still didn’t like it. Finally, around 2018 I figured out why I didn’t like it and posted this status on my social media:
The idea that people should figure out what their partner’s “love language” is to overcome relationship issues was a huge red flag to me because one, everyone pretty much likes all of the languages, and two, if you have to drastically change how you interact with your partner to make the relationship work, you probably aren’t compatible. And if you aren’t compatible, you are probably in a bad relationship. No one should stay in a bad relationship.
Well, now scientists are pointing out that the “love languages” theory isn’t backed by any science. The scientists are basically saying the same thing I said, the theory can end up keeping people in bad relationships. The article “Does your “love language” really matter? Scientists are skeptical.” states:
The article also points out that no one truly has a primary “love language”:
Now that scientists are speaking up about the “love languages” theory I wonder if people will figure out that it’s not a real thing?
Sure everyone wants to feel loved however, being in a healthy happy relationship shouldn’t be difficult. If it is, you probably are not in a healthy happy relationship.
~ Kai
