Dear Kai,
Why don’t men call? I met a guy at a bar. He asked for my number and then never called or texted me or anything. Why??
A.
Dear A.,
Short answer, he didn’t want to call you. And his decision not to call has absolutely nothing to do with you. When men do things that seem contradictory to their initial behavior, (he took your number and then didn’t use it to call you), most women including you, probably believe their decision not to call has something to do with them. It doesn’t.
One of the hardest things for women to accept when dating is that the man’s behavior is not based on something that the woman personally did or did not do. This guy simply decided he didn’t want to call you (unless he lost your number, but that’s a very rare exception)! The best thing for you to do is let it go.
There are other men out there. If you just met him that means you don’t know him. That’s another reason you should not put much thought into men who don’t call. You haven’t invested anything so you haven’t lost anything. Remember “pay attention to the men who pay attention to you.”
~Kai
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